Since idols of any kind promise life but can't ultimately deliver, idolatry inevitably leads to frustration, disappointment, lack of vision, loss of purpose, feelings of guilt and shame, hopelessness, emptiness, anger, fear, anxiety, despair. Even so, God often uses these consequences to call us back to his solution for wayward worship: repentance, faith, forgiveness, personal growth, direction, purpose, and lasting change. Kim talks a lot about this.
Whether with individuals, couples, or families, HeavyGrace intends for the Christian counseling process to be a time of discovery as well as recovery. It takes time to get to know God and ourselves. The process isn't always easy. In fact, sometimes it seems like things get harder at first. But those willing to persevere typically find relief from emotional, mental, and spiritual distress and soon begin to lead more fulfilling and fruitful lives.
In the end, Kim tells people that the goal of personal change is bigger than a better marriage, though it may lead to that. The goal is greater than personal happiness, though joy seems to follow those on journeys of gospel transformation. It's not to gain more knowledge about God, have deeper spiritual experiences, or be freed from nagging sins, though these things usually happen. The goal of change is Christ-likeness.